For years in a community kitchen, no one said thank you. It wasn’t rude — it was cultural. Here’s why I kept showing up anyway, and what changed when gratitude quietly entered the room.
Category Archives: Mutual Aid
Mutual aid begins when support stops flowing in one direction.
These reflections explore shared care, reciprocity, and the dignity that appears when people are not positioned as recipients.
When someone is in crisis: what helps and what doesn’t
When someone is in crisis, most people want to help — but good intentions don’t always translate into what actually works. Here’s what helps in the moment (calm presence, practical support, shame-free language), what doesn’t (minimising, fixing, spiritualising), and a few simple scripts you can use when you don’t know what to say.
What Mutual Aid Is — and What It Isn’t
Mutual aid is one of those ideas that sounds simple, until you realise how much it challenges the way we’ve been trained to think. We live in a world where help usually comes with a form attached — an assessment, a referral, a waiting list, a gatekeeper, a set of conditions. Mutual aid doesn’t beginContinue reading “What Mutual Aid Is — and What It Isn’t”
Sharing Without Hierarchy
Power isn’t the problem. It’s what fills the space when connection thins. Support can take many forms. These reflections notice the ways care works best when it is reciprocal, informal, and rooted in relationship.
Moving Between Circles
Mutual aid depends on reciprocity. Care does not. The work is letting people move freely between the two
