How to Start a Gathering (That Actually Works)

A gathering is one of the simplest ways to build community — but only if it has purpose and structure. This guide shares what I’ve learned about showing up, keeping it repeatable, and making sure connection leads somewhere real.

When someone is in crisis: what helps and what doesn’t

When someone is in crisis, most people want to help — but good intentions don’t always translate into what actually works. Here’s what helps in the moment (calm presence, practical support, shame-free language), what doesn’t (minimising, fixing, spiritualising), and a few simple scripts you can use when you don’t know what to say.

When someone is angry at God — what I’ve learned to do.

When someone is angry with the world, it’s rarely a debate — it’s usually a wound. I’ve learned not to rush in with explanations or clichés, but to stay present, listen for the story underneath, and honour the pain before trying to interpret it. Sometimes the most powerful outreach isn’t an answer — it’s steadiness, kindness, and space for honesty.